Showing posts with label jealousy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label jealousy. Show all posts

Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Condo People

My last couple of posts have made me start thinking of the difference of condo people vs. house people. I never quite know which category I fit into. Obviously, I live in a condo now, and at one time I thought buying a condo was a good idea. But I lust after houses, so that must mean I'm a house person… right?


When you think of your typical condo people, two images are conjured. The urban, young couple who eats most of their meals out, walks everywhere, works long hours and has their BlackBerries attached to their ears at all times. They buy an airy, downtown loft condo where they can walk to all the trendy restaurants and hip shops. The other image: the retired, empty nesters who sell their house and downsize. They are more likely to buy a condo in a quiet neighborhood, but close to things by car. They're interested in simple, one level condos that are neatly landscaped. Maybe two bedrooms so they can have a space for visiting grandkids and a sewing or exercise room. Most of the people in our association fit this demo to a tee.


When you think of house people, you probably think young families. Perhaps in the 'burbs. They drive an SUV or crossover with car seats in the back. They have a dog. They spend many a weekend at the Home Depot working on their next project.


But us? We're young, but we have a family. We're decidedly not hip anymore. We don't work long hours, and while we like a walkable neighborhood, we want it to be close to parks, libraries and grocery stores, not bars. We live in the 'burbs, technically, but so close to the city, where we spend a lot of time. But we're not above the suburbs at all. I love me some Target, and we're known to hit up the chain restaurants nearby us. No dogs for us… we have cats.


So maybe we should live in a neighborhood full of houses, where we can garden and play in the backyard. On the other hand, maybe being condo people is best for people like us. We are both working parents, and as any working parent will tell you, our time with our son is so precious. Instead of maintaining a house, we get to write a monthly check and sit back and let the association take care of it. That frees us up to spend time with Sebastian, walking to the park or entertaining friends.


Perhaps my dream of something bigger and better is getting in the way of seeing what's right in front of me: that I already live in a place that's perfect for me and my family. Our quiet, wooded neighborhood next to trails, schools and parks appeals to the side of me that yearns for space and nature. Our small, easy to maintain condo unit in bright, modern colors appeals to the on-the-go, city gal in me.


Maybe I don't need to cram myself, or my home, into a category. Maybe it can just be what it is, which is home.

Friday, March 26, 2010

The Green Eyed Monster

Today has been a tough day. I just started this blog, and it's actually been making me a tiny bit excited about rediscovering our condo and tackling some projects. I was beginning to think that this experiment could be crazy enough to work, and that writing about my house might make me learn to like it more.

But then I've spent nearly all day hearing a friend' new house. They had the offer accepted finally, after a long short sale process. I'm totally happy for them– they're some of my favorite people. However, it is so hard to hear people talk up their new real estate deals when I'm feeling so desperately underwater on our "investment." Their new house is LESS than ours was, but it's a four bedroom house with a basement, and ours is a two bedroom, one level condo. And it's in our same neighborhood.
That's part of the reason we didn't buy a single family home when we bought – they were completely out of our price range. We could either buy a house in a sketchy neighborhood, or a condo in a good one. We chose the condo. And not to say that was a bad decision at the time… I think it was the right one. But lately all I hear about are the deals people are scoring now. If we had just waited, we could have bought a place twice the size of what we have, with some land. Hindsight is 20/20, but I wish all the time we'd waited.

Do you compare yourself to others? It's a really bad habit that I have. My husband tells me all the time to knock it off, and I know he's right, but it's hard for me to stop. I also worry that people are judging me. Stupid, I know, but it still happens. Basically, I think that my condo appears like a glorified apartment, and that my friends and acquaintances secretly judge me for not buying a "real" home. Any tips for avoiding real estate jealousy? Do I stop torturing myself by looking at listings? (As a real estate junkie, that would be tough. I love to look at both homes I wish I could buy now, and similar condos in my area to see what they're selling for. It's always torturous, but addicting at the same time.) Do I run when someone wants to talk about their new house? Never help my friends move into their new digs? Or do I just suck it up and deal?

If you're underwater, what do you do to cope in this buyer's market?